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torn in 2 (guest) Posted:12/04/2005 1:59 PM this is my first christmas with dad at 1 place and mom at the other. i hate it! i'm afraid of going into depression because they complain about each other and i have to take care of 3 little kids, a brother and 2 sisters. any ideas? please help. KellzDMB15 Posts:16 Posted:12/05/2005 3:06 AM I can't say that I know where you are coming from because I have never gone through a divorce myself, but I do know what it is like to go into depression because of my parents or other family members fighting. Since I haven't exactly "been there, done that" I am not sure that I can really relate to you. But I do think that you need to remember that you are important too, and if it affects you so much as to put you into depression, then maybe you should tell your parents how you feel. You need to think of your own health, especially if you are responsible for taking care of others. Since I don't really know much on this particular topic, maybe anyone else who has been in a similar situation can offer insight. n2ops Posts:204 Posted:12/05/2005 8:00 PM How about family members? Grandparents, aunts, etc. Or family friends. Perhaps they could spend some time with your siblings or they could invite all of you over. You just might find someone who is delighted to have some company. You could learn about their childhood Christmas experiences. You and your siblings might consider doing something for that individual as a gift of yourselves. Don't forget to make time for yourself. Perhaps watch a DVD while that family member or family friend is helping. Be sure to write back and let us know how it's going. simplekindofgrrl Posts:82 Posted:03/08/2006 5:05 PM i could say that i have been through it most of my life so u could ask me if u haveany questions and i will try to ancwer u as much as posible The Searcher Posts:5 Posted:05/12/2006 12:23 AM If it's the first Christmas, then the divorce is pretty recent, I guess. The hurt and pain that caused it is still fairly fresh in your parents minds. They may lash out at one another for many years before they simmer down. That's the bad news, now for the good news. You still have parents that love you enough to want you around. They may try to bad mouth the other to get you to see their point of view, but you need to let them know that you care for both of them and you want to remain neutral. Your younger siblings are depending on you ( I assume they are younger because you are caring for them) and you're not going to let them down, How do I know this? Because you've taken the first step and are reaching out for help. I have battled depression off and on for years. I'm miserable to be around when I'm depressed and it can be very lonely. At this point I could say something corny like "Jesus Loves You" but instead I'm gonna say "Jesus LOVES YOU". See the difference? For most of my life I felt a deep lonliness despite the fact that my Lord was waiting right there for me to realize that He did Love ME, Mr. Unlovable. You hang in there, try to take some time to do things you enjoy, remember the reason for the season, whatever it takes. Believe me, this too shall pass. Given enough time these hurts will heal. Let your parents deal with their own problems, You just rest assured in the knowledge that you're not alone, we are here, Jesus is right there, and all of us will help you however we can.

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